Women with Families: Your Opinion vs. Our Opinion

I really don't have anything to disclaim with this blog post I'm about to write. I saw my friend post a link to a blog article that was called "I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry," by a woman named Amy Glass. This is my response to her point of view.

She begins her article with this incredibly crass title that's rude and demeaning to women who have decided to live their lives differently from her. Alright Ms. Glass, we definitely understand that you have your own opinion and you're most sincerely okay for having it. But here's the difference. A majority of the women who do have husbands and children at a young age have the maturity and class to not condemn people like you through a huge social media such as blogging. Most of the times they're the one's thinking of others and not just themselves and sharing information with each other about tips on how to help their children grow, or how to create a great family dynamic within their households. So to get down to it.....they aren't being selfish and are striving to add value to their lives and not spend an hour writing a blog post about how they find single women who go on escapades to Asia or try to gain "real accomplishments" that are just selfish antics to try to feel equal to men because you have a psychological need to stick it to men just because you have a vagina and not a penis (sorry if that sounds crude, but that's really what it is).

Your "accomplishments" and our "accomplishments" differ from one another. Yours is no better than ours. It is hard to manage a household. Please try to create a monthly budget, help your spouse find his keys and ask him to not mix the whites with the blues (because there are PLENTY of men who help do the laundry like mine does), and keep your child from sticking their finger in the electrical socket because they somehow managed to take out the safety plug all at the same time. And this is not even to mention that this is just your home life APART from your regular day job....

To quote the article The New Stay-at-Home Mom on parenting.com by Charlotte Latvala:

"There are 10.1 million women-owned businesses in the United States, says the Center for Women's Business Research. No firm statistics exist on how many are run by stay-at-home moms, but it stands to reason that the percentage is increasing in the Wi-Fi age. "Over 90 percent of the moms we've interviewed said the desire for family flexibility is the number-one reason they work from home," says Ellen Parlapiano, co-founder of mompreneursonline.com. "Another big change we've seen in the past 15 years is acceptance. In the past, moms have been reluctant to tell clients they work from home. Now it's commonplace, even respectable." Mom-owned businesses, which used to be heavy on arts and crafts, now run the professional gamut, says Parlapiano: Web design, attorney, marketing guru, social media coaching, you name it."

 

So it seems like your perception of what moms and wives are in this day in age only comes from your narrow scope of what you see in your daily life. There are plenty of women who are not only juggling work, but a family life as well. Instead of demonizing a lifestyle choice simply because it isn't your own, maybe you need to begin to research into how much hard work it can be. Of course learning new things or going on fantastic adventures is a wonderful way to live your life and no one is saying it's wrong, but there are more intrinsic goals that other women have that just might not be similar to a path you would choose. Keep an open mind.